March 7, 2008
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Gender dynamics in relationships
I used to think that women usually try to change their significant others more compared to men. It is hard to make generalizations and personality is a big part of this whole relationship thing. Recently though, I realized that men do the same thing, just in different ways.
Most of the time, men are not as direct as women. For instance, if your boyfriend hates your best friend, he does not say he hates her but instead finds excuses for not meeting with her. I feel like men express what they like or not more with their behavior (actions) and women more with words. So, thinking about the example above, your boyfriend’s behavior affects you over time and you do not meet with your best friend as often.
It is normal for people to change as a result of a relationship, as long as you don’t end up becoming a fundamentally different person
I just think that if men were more open to women and if women were less clinched to the past mistakes in relationships, life would be easier for everyone.
Comments (5)
This is true, but some men just refuse to cooperate and you have to decide – spend time with them or your friends. When he puts me in that dilemma, I’d rather just be with my friends. One of you are going to be resentful, why not let it be him every once in a while?
I did double-take when reading the title of this post, because at first, I read it as “Gender Gymnastics in Relationships”. But that would make sense. Relationships are hard. So are standing fulltwists.
Oh boy, this is definitely true, darling. Wowsa.
hehe, i am exempt from these gender dynamics.
well it is all about communication but we’re so wired differently that we never understand what we actually mean. Guys really don’t want to be in verbal arguements over stupid things, which most of what we say ultimately leads to. Also guys take forever to change and most gals want it done instantly. Ladies never want to change either and when they do, they don’t like it and make us suffer due to that. It’s an endless cycle of craziness… but it wouldn’t be love if it wasn’t. haha haha